http://www.china.org.cn/english/2003/Jan/53318.htm

In fact, many Chinese-Americans are living in this kind of dilemmas. 
Parents want their children to grow up as an American well adapted to the 
mainstream cultural environment but at the same time with typical Chinese 
virtues such as respecting their parents and being modest. As Maxine Hong  
Kingston stated in the first chapter of The Woman Warrior, her writing 
was an attempt to bridge the wide gap between her and her ancestors. "I 
have to continuously classify the different sections of my life: 
childhood, imagination, family, village, movie and survival." During this 
process, the child gradually lost her own identity. As a matter of fact, 
the "Chinese characteristics" praised by many Chinese parents represent 
traditional morality and Confucian teachings, which go against the 
American lifestyle and individualism. How should a child grow up with the 
education from two totally different cultures? For children who learned 
about the Chinese civilization from their parents only but never got a 
chance to live in a Chinese society, the so-called "Chinese culture" has 
left them nothing but strange ideas and ghost stories. This is the main 
factor that has formed the generation-gap between the older and younger 
Chinese-Americans. 

(China.org.cn by Li Xiao, January 11, 2003)